How Trust Weaves Through Life's Big Decisions
Today I feel drawn to explore TRUST and its role in thriving relationships.
What is alive for me at the moment, is to understand how planning relates to trust, and how to make those big life decisions with confidence.
I will start by looking at nature, it is always honest. It is the way of life for a plant or animal to grow and adapt to its changing environment in order to survive. It is the way of life to change over time in order to evolve. As humans, we are also subject to these natural laws, and it flows through into our relationships and the trust that they depend on.
The nature of trust in a relationship is one of surrender. It is a conscious choice to believe in or commit to something greater than we can control.
When it comes to close relationships, opening the heart can be an unknown space that presents deep vulnerability. In this space, there is great capacity for hurt, and therefore great trust in the other person to care for our heart and how we are feeling.
When it comes to food, water, shelter, finances, there are also times of trust when one person is vulnerable, and is depending on others to care for their needs until they are in a position where they have control over their needs/environment.
Predictability, reliability, and consistency is how trust can be gradually built between people. It creates certainty for how another person is likely to behave when we trust them with responsibilities or situations when we are not present or in sharing our deep love.
The key element, I am learning, when it comes to relationships that thrive with peace, joy and happiness, is that they grow together.
In order to grow, there needs to be change, and in order to change there needs to be the capacity to embrace the unknown. In those moments when a couple stretches into new territory together, there is a greater dependence of trust within the relationship.
This is why buying a house with someone, or changing jobs, or moving house, or having a child can cause a lot of stress for relationships. It tests the level of trust, and can bring to the surface the fears and hurts of past experiences in vulnerable moments. This can lead to unconscious reactions where a person tries to control a situation. Ironically those controlling behaviours can undermine the necessary give and take of support that is essential to enjoy the experience of growing together.
It is not an easy thing to face fears and lean into trust.
Have you ever had one of those fork in the road moments? A moment where you are looking at 2 very different directions and unsure which path will lead you to your best life? Are you ready?
To support you in this, I have created a ‘Trust Music Meditation’ to help you to access a place of deep trust within yourself, and then make a centred decision that is connected with your heart, and in a deeply relaxed state.
When we create space to slow down before making big decisions, we make wise decisions that listen to the intelligence of our body, our heart and our soul when we engage the mind to make a choice.
The ‘Trust Music Meditation’ is available now for free in the ‘Peace Mind Music’ app.
Download here: iOS | Android/Google Playstore
